A month ago, if you would have asked me, “When do you think you know when you’re in love?” I would have said:
“You need to be dating the person for at least a year before you really know you’re in love with them.”
This is what I thought about “falling in love” for a long time. I didn’t believe in “falling hard and falling fast.” I thought people who claimed they were in love after only dating a person for a few months were crazy; I thought people who fell in love with a person before they were actually dating that person were crazier. But now, I don’t think I believe in those notions anymore.
I’ve been doing a little survey-ing with my friends and family lately: When did you know you were in love with [insert name of boy/girlfriend, fiancé, or spouse here]? And I’ve been getting a lot of shocking answers that completely defy my original notion of “falling in love.” Answers like “four months” and “one month” and “before we actually started dating” and “the minute I saw him/her.”
The answers I’ve been receiving have made me even more curious about the notion of “falling in love.” So, I want to know your opinions on the subject matter: How do you know when you’re in love with someone? Do you believe in “falling hard and falling fast”? Or do you think it takes time to know for sure? What are your experiences with falling in love?