“I’m here to pick up my dress, veil, and shoes,” I told the sales woman sitting behind the front desk of the bridal shop. “Great! Let me go grab them for you. I’ll be right back,” she replied excitedly.
While I waited for the woman to return, I couldn’t help but notice a fellow bride-to-be trying on a gorgeous wedding dress; not only did she look beautiful, but she had her own personal paparazzi with her that consisted of her mom, her grandmother, her sisters, and bridesmaids. The mom was videotaping her daughter twirl around in the white gown while her sisters took pictures. They were all laughing, crying, and bonding simultaneously. They were excitedly celebrating a very special day: the bride-to-be’s wedding day.
As soon as I left the bridal shop with my wedding dress, shoes, and veil in hand, I started crying. I had just witnessed a beautiful moment that I was extremely envious of because my dress shopping experience was quite the opposite: I went with Chris’ mom to try on dresses because she wanted to buy my dress for me. While the experience was a great bonding experience for the two of us, and I really appreciate her generosity, I wish that my dress shopping experience had been more like my fellow bride-to-be’s experience. I wish my mom and my grandma (dad’s mom) were still alive so they could have come dress shopping with me and Chris’ mom. I wish I had invited my sisters and closest friends to go dress shopping with us, too. I wish I had made a bigger deal of buying my wedding dress, as well as my engagement and upcoming wedding overall. I wish I had treated this time in my life like the huge, significant, exciting life milestone that it is, instead of just trying to rush through it.
My wedding is tomorrow. While I’m extremely excited for this day and to finally be married to Chris, a small part of me wishes that we were going to be engaged for just a few more months so we can enjoy the engagement period just a little bit longer– to relish in the anticipation, the excitement, the preparation, and the bonding experiences with family and friends. When I first got engaged, a good friend of mine advised me to “enjoy being engaged, enjoy this special time. It’s a big deal.” I didn’t take her advice to heart because I was and still am so excited to be married to the love of my life; I wanted to “get the engagement and wedding over with” so we could start our married lives; therefore, I didn’t make a big deal about dress shopping, having a bridal shower/bachelorette party, our small city hall wedding, or throwing a big reception to celebrate with our relatives later on. But now I understand what she was talking about. Our engagement lasted for about eight months, which seems like only a minute compared to the fact that we’re going to be married for the rest of our lives. Now that it’s almost over, I realize I didn’t appreciate it as much as I should have.
Like I mentioned earlier, I’m getting married tomorrow, so it’s too late to extend my engagement period or re-do my dress shopping experience. Right now, I can only look forward and make the best of my last day of being engaged. Later today, my sisters and I are going to get pampered together by going to a nail salon and getting pedicures. Later tonight, Chris and I are going to exchange wedding gifts, then have dinner with my family in San Francisco. Something else I’m focusing on is all of the wonderful moments I did have during my engagement: our engagement party, getting engagement photos taken, my crazy-fun bachelorette party, ring shopping with Chris, my lovely bridal shower, and a small impromptu celebration with my co-workers. I’m so thankful for all of the people in our lives who showed us so much love and support during this time, and helped us realize that just because we’re practically eloping by having a super small, city hall ceremony, our engagement and wedding are still a really big deal and they should be treated as such.
Tomorrow is my wedding day. Instead of trying to rush through it like I did with my engagement, I’m going to take my time and savor every single moment of our day. I’m going to have an amazing time celebrating my wedding day with Chris and our closest family members. And in a couple weeks, I’m going to have a great time partying with our relatives at the big reception my dad is hosting for us. Our wedding day is going to be amazing, and I can’t wait to finally love, appreciate, and celebrate it like the huge, significant, exciting life milestone that it is.