Do you ever skim through your Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram feed and get jealous of what other people are posting? Do you ever think to yourself, “I want that in my own life”?
Yeah, me too.
In case you haven’t figured it out from the title of this blog post, I have baby fever, and I blame the internet. More specifically, I blame social media: everyone is having babies and posting about it non-stop all over their various social media platforms. They’re posting sonogram photos, baby bump photos, newborn baby photos, and adorable infant/toddler photos. They’re posting happy little photos of their happy little families. And you know what? Seeing all of this on a daily basis is making me want to get pregnant and have a baby, too, because all these photos I keep seeing make being pregnant/having a baby look so exciting; therefore, I find myself wanting to experience that excitment, also. I’m constantly thinking, “I want that in my own life.”
And not only that, I’m becoming green with envy because, yeah I want a baby, but I’m not in a position to have one right now. Chris and I promised each other that we would be smart about when we decided to start a family: we will have traveled more, paid down almost all our debt, and have a good chunk of money saved. We’ll have career jobs and we’ll live in a house. Since all of that is still in progress for us, having a baby is currently on the backburner. So when I see that so-and-so is pregnant with her first, second, or even third child, I get jealous because that means she and her husband must be in a good financial state if they’re having a baby, whereas Chris and I are not there yet.
As lame as it feels to be jealous of my FB friends and even a few complete strangers, I still think it’s perfectly normal to feel this way. I mean, afterall, people only post the GOOD stuff happening in their lives on social media, right? New jobs, new houses, new cars. Perfect marriages and perfect relationships. Fun social plans and exciting vacations. Fancy dinners at expensive restaurants and delicious homecooked meals. Pregnancy announcements and cute newborn babies. How could anyone NOT be jealous after seeing all of the above in their social media feeds?
The thing is, nobody ever posts any of the bad stuff happening in their lives. Shitty jobs. Breakups. A lonely Friday night. A failed cooking attempt. As for the negative baby-related stuff, I bet it would look something like this:
- Waking up in the middle of the night to feed a crying baby
- Spending tons of money on diapers
- Morning sickness or weight gain
- Baby meltdowns in the middle of the grocery store
- Non-stop diaper “Poopsplosions” and baby vomit
We are always in such a hurry to post the good things in our lives on social media for all the world to see and marvel at, yet we never post the bad. THIS is something I need to keep in mind whenever I’m feeling bouts of baby fever and jealousy. Yes, everyone else is having babies, but I’m the one who is getting 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep every night. I’m the one who is traveling to New York in September. I’m the one doing whatever I want, whenever I want in life because I still have that freedom.
The internet has been giving me baby fever, but I’m not going to let it bring me down. Instead, I’m going to appreciate and take advantage of my freedom while I still have it. I’m going to keep in mind that my time will come to have a baby, but for now, I should focus on training for my half marathon, planning my trip to New York, working on my career, and enjoying the rest of my 20’s.
Does social media ever spark jealousy inside you? If so, what is it that you want in your own life?
I’m training to run a half marathon for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society to raise life-saving funds to help those fighting blood cancers. Please help! You can donate to my event at: http://pages.teamintraining.org/sac/nikesf14/gmclaughlin