Whenever I think about my circle of close girlfriends, the first thing I usually think about is how most of them live out-of-town and how much of a bummer that is. From Oakland to Germany, my close girlfriends are actually not very close to me at all. However, even though most of my girlfriends are too far away to see on a regular basis, I still do my best to stay in touch with them regularly and keep up-to-date with their lives, and vice versa. Here are some of the ways my friends and I are able to maintain our long-distance friendships:
1) Use social media to stalk each other. This is the easiest and most obvious way to find out what’s going on with your far away friends. In this day and age of social networking, smart phones, and always having to be “connected,” it’s pretty impossible to not know what’s happening in your bestie’s life (unless she’s a rebel and doesn’t use social media). While you’re at it, let your girlfriend know you’re
stalking thinking about her. Write on her FB wall. Like her Instagram pics. Comment on her blog. Something that one of my best friends did on the 4th of July was send me a picture via Facebook of a pug wearing a patriotic hat. I love pugs, so this made my day. What made this gesture even better was knowing that my bestie saw that pug pic, thought of me, and let me know it. I love knowing that my long-distance girlfriends are thinking of me even though we’re in different cities.
2) Make an effort to talk one-on-one with phone, email, or Skype. Social media’s great and all, but if you really want to make an effort, pick up the phone or shoot her an email. Even text messages are kind of rare these days. Whenever I get a text from a friend, it feels like they’re making a little bit of an extra effort to stay in touch.
3) Send them snail mail or care packages. I love sending mail. Nobody does it anymore, yet people love receiving something in the mail other than bills and credit card offers. In addition to sending out Christmas cards in December, I send my girlfriends birthday cards around their birthdays. As for care packages, when I was living in South Korea, a couple of my besties sent me a care package for my birthday and a care package around Christmas. And you know what? It made me THE HAPPIEST.
4) When they’re in town, drop what you’re doing to hang out with them. When my girlfriends are in town, I do whatever I can to see them during their stay. For example, one of my girlfriends (who lives out of the country) spent the weekend in Sacramento a few months ago to see some friends before leaving the country again. I had marked her visit on my calendar and made sure I had some time that weekend to spend with her while she made her rounds. I ended up meeting her for happy hour when she got into Sac, then again for brunch before she left. I’m so glad I got to see her because who knows when I’ll see her again since she lives out of the country!
5) Make an effort to visit them in their city. Friendship is a two-way street. If your far away friends are making an effort to visit you in your city, you better be returning the favor! I know this can be hard if you have friends who live out of state (and especially if they live out of the country). Lucky for me, most of my far away friends live a couple hours away at the most, so it makes it easy for me to take day trips to go see them and spend some quality time together.
How are some ways you stay in touch with your long-distance friends?