Well, here I am: 40 weeks pregnant and no signs of labor in sight. I had my 40 week check up on Tuesday and when my midwife checked my cervix, she said the baby’s head was lower but I’m still not even a centimeter dialated yet! This was discouraging news to hear. I also haven’t been having any real contractions yet, just irregular cramping once in a while, and my midwife said I need contractions in order to dialate. I’ve been trying to get more walking in these last couple days to help naturally induce labor, but it’s hard to walk a lot when it just triggers lower back and pelvic pain.
Friends and family keep asking how I’m feeling. Honestly, I’m miserable in more ways than one:
Physically, everything hurts. I have lower back and pelvic pain. My hands and feet are swollen. I have carpal tunnel in my hands. My midwife confirmed I have PUPPS since my body itches all over. I feel huge and I want my body back. I feel helpless and handicapped.
Mentally, I’m stressing out. I was hoping baby would be a week early, or even just a few days early so I could have a little more than 8 weeks with him before I have to go back to work. But now that he’s late, I’m losing time with him. This is especially stressful because I really want to be able to breastfeed, but I will most likely need 3-4 weeks to establish breastfeeding and then more time after that to introduce a bottle with breastmilk so his caregivers can feed him when I’m not there. I would also like to be fully recovered from labor by the time I go back to work; I’ll need 6 weeks to do so, 8 if I end up having a c-section.
Emotionally, I just want my baby already. Everyone I know who was pregnant this year has had their baby already so I feel like the last one who is just waiting around to go into labor. I was a little jealous seeing pictures on social media of all the new moms with their babies on Christmas. I was hoping my baby would be here for Christmas, too!
I gotta say, these last couple weeks of pregnancy have been the worst. Not only am I beyond uncomfortable, but I’m starting to get bored with all this waiting around. I’ve watched tons of movies, read pregnancy books (which I’m sick of BTW), and cleaned/organized just about everything in the house. I even bought a 1500 piece puzzle to keep me busy while I wait to go into labor. Funny how I prepared everything for baby early in my third trimester because I thought there was a chance he’d come early. Now I’m overdue with nothing to do.
There are still a couple days left of 2016 for Baby M to make his appearance, but I’m not going to hold my breath. I’ve accepted the fact that he could end up being a January baby, and there’s nothing I can do about it.
39 weeks and just sitting here, waiting for Baby M to make his big debut! Time has really slowed down since I started my maternity leave last Friday. I had already gotten mostly everything on my pregnancy to-do list done, like finish the nursery, wash all his clothes/blankets, pack my hospital bag, stock our freezer/pantry with food, buy postpartum supplies, etc. I even had all of my Christmas shopping done already. (Thank you, Amazon!) So these last few days I’ve been wrapping gifts, cleaning what I can around the house (energy levels permitting), and reading my pregnancy/baby books. I’ll admit, I’ve already had some feelings of boredom and cabin fever. I would love to get out more, but I am trying to stay close to home in case I go into labor, and I just don’t have the energy to do a lot of walking either. I’m also trying to avoid sickness as much as possible by staying away from public places and people in general. It seems like everyone is sick right now; I’d hate to get sick, go into labor, and not be able to hold my newborn baby right away!
Despite the boredom and cabin fever, I’m really trying to enjoy these last few days before Baby M comes, because when I have this kid, there won’t be much down time and there will be even less sleep happening!
- I’m still not having a ton of labor signs. I did have a couple mornings this last week where I got out of bed and felt some major pelvic pain which probably means baby’s head is getting lower and lower. The pain was so bad, it hurt to walk at first, but it eventually eased up as I moved around more. I’ve still been feeling some cramping here and there, but nothing painful or timeable yet.
- I have noticed that I’ve been itching a lot on my belly where my stretch marks are, as well as some itching on my arms and legs. I consulted Dr. Google and it sounds like I may have PUPPS, a rash that can occur during the last three months of pregnancy. It sounds like it’s common in first-time moms who are pregnant with boys– lucky me! But luckily, it’s not harmful to the baby or me, and should go away shortly after I deliver, which is hopefully soon because this itching is starting to drive me crazy!
- I’ve had a lot of anxiety this past month about labor and delivery; I’ve been feeling really scared and would even cry about the idea of it once in a while, but now I’m to the point where I just want to get it over with already! I’m tired of being pregnant and I want my baby here. Plus, I’ve done so much research throughout my pregnancy, I feel like I know pretty much everything to expect, now I just need to get through it. Bring. It. On.
For Christmas weekend, we are keeping things low key since I can go into labor at any moment. Chris and I are staying home, exchanging gifts, and watching Christmas movies– that is, if I’m not in the hospital having a baby!
How was your week? What are your plans for Christmas?
38 weeks and officially on maternity leave! Hallelujah! I feel like not having to go to work anymore will help make the rest of my pregnancy a little more bearable. Plus, now I can focus on the last few tasks we need to get done before Baby M makes his big debut, like stock our fridge with food. It’s totally empty right now!
Some other notes from the past week:
- I had my 38 week appointment on Tuesday and Baby M is looking good; his heartbeat is in a good range and he’s still measuring right on track. I also got my cervix checked and learned I’ve started to dialate but I’m not quite 1 cm yet. That was on Tuesday though so who knows, I could have dialated a little more since then. As far as other signs labor is near, I’ve been getting more Braxton Hicks contractions and some crampiness in my lower abdomenen area, but no painful cramping or cramping that becomes regular. I’m still hoping for him to show up between 39 and 40 weeks!
- I’ve started getting a bunch of texts from family members asking “How are you feeling?” which I’m sure is code for “Are you in labor yet?” I know they mean well, but I just find it funny that they think I’m going to forget to tell them when the baby arrives or something. Trust me, when he’s here, everyone will know!
- Something I’ve really struggled with these last few weeks of pregnancy is feeling handicapped and like I have to rely on Chris to help me with basic tasks, like putting my socks and shoes on for instance. I consider myself to be a very independent person, so relying on someone else to help me with simple, everyday things is kinda frustrating. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: I am so, so, SO ready to have my body back.
In addition to more resting and nesting this weekend, Chris and I plan to get in another date and see the new Star Wars movie. I also plan to wrap some Christmas gifts. Can’t believe it’s only a week away!
How was your week? What are your plans for the weekend?
Some websites and books say I’m full-term at 37 weeks, some say I’ll be full-term at 39 weeks. One thing all the websites and books do agree on is that I could have this baby ANY DAY NOW which is kinda crazy. I hope he keeps baking for at least another week so I can finish wrapping up stuff at work before my maternity leave starts on 12/15. It would be nice if he could come one week early (Dec. 21st-ish) but there’s actually a chance he could come late because I was an overdue baby, and I hear early/overdue babies can run in the mom’s family. I guess we’ll have to wait and see.
Some other notes from the last week:
- This week was a great week for free baby stuff! Chris and I chose Amazon for one of our baby registries, and I’m so glad we did, because they have so many good baby registry perks. Because of one of their baby registry perks, we got a $150 credit to use towards diapers and wipes! We redeemed the credit over the weekend and ended up getting three big boxes of diapers and four big boxes of wipes. So awesome! Also, a co-worker gave me a lot of baby gear she doesn’t need anymore since her son is a year old and she doesn’t plan on having anymore kids. One of the things she gave us was a barely used jumper that we put on our registry but no one bought. Score!
- One thing I am ready to say goodbye to is pregnancy. I’m over it and have been over it for most of the third trimester. I’m tired of the back and pelvic pain. I’m tired of the food and alcohol restrictions. I’m tired of not being able to bend over or walk at a normal pace. I’m tired of my lungs, bladder, and stomach being squished by my uterus. I’m ready to have my body back and feel like myself again.
- So far, this month has been all about taking advantage of our last pre-baby days. I’ve been sleeping a lot. Chris and I have date nights planned for every weekend before my EDD. I got a pedicure last weekend and wandered the aisles of Target on my own. Our lives are about to change dramatically once this baby gets here, and while I’m ecstatic for this change and welcome it with open arms, I still can’t help but feel a tiny bit sad about saying goodbye to my old life. It’s a little bittersweet!
No big plans for the weekend, just more resting and nesting!
How was your week? What are your plans for the weekend?
Another post I’ve been procrastinating on: our baby shower!
Before anyone even offered to host a baby shower for me, I already knew I wanted a co-ed shower so Chris could be a part of the celebration for our son. Even though he’s not the one growing the baby, it’s been important for me to have him be as involved in the pregnancy as possible. So when my dad offered to host a co-ed shower for me and Chris, of course I accepted his generous offer!
The theme of our shower was “Oh, the Places He’ll Go” (the same as the nursery theme) and we had about 50 people in attendance consisting of our families, friends, and co-workers. Since having a co-ed shower really grows your guest list, we rented a small hall in a community center near my dad’s house. My dad was the host of the shower, but he couldn’t have done it without the help of my step-mom and two younger sisters; my dad supplied the funds, but my step-mom and sisters did all the planning, cooking, and decorating. And they did a fantastic job! They really went above and beyond with all the details down to the games, prizes, decorations, etc. They got so many compliments afterward on how fun the shower was and how beautiful the decorations looked.
Not only was I blown away by all the work my family put in, but I was blown away by all of our guests’ generosity! Everyone literally showered Baby M with gifts of all kinds: stuff off our registry, cash/gift cards, handmade blankets, diapers/wipes, and books for the little bookshelf in his nursery. I think it took us an hour to open all the gifts and we were barely able to fit everything in my Toyota Corolla afterward. I made sure to send out our thank you cards ASAP after our shower so everyone knew how extremely grateful we were for their thoughtfulness!
They say you only get one baby shower no matter how many kids you end up having, so I’m glad our one baby shower turned out the way it did. I will never forget the work that was put into it, and how loved, celebrated, and supported Chris and I felt on that day.
I’m so excited to finally share some photos of Baby M’s nursery! We finished putting it together after our baby shower (around 31-32 weeks), but I’ve clearly been off my blogging game since I got pregnant, so it’s taken me a little while to take some photos and put this post together.
The theme of the nursery is “Oh, the Places He’ll Go” based off the Dr. Suess book about the journey of life and its challenges. The theme can also be interpreted as one relating to travel and adventure, which is more of the meaning I was going for when choosing this theme. Chris and I love to travel and go on adventures. In fact, our relationship started out with a lot of traveling since we did international long distance for the first year we were together; Chris visited me three times while I was living in South Korea, and during one of his visits, we went to Thailand together, so needless to say travel was a big part of our relationship that first year! We’ve gone on so many other trips since I moved back to the States (New York, Seattle, Las Vegas, etc.), but now we are about to embark on our biggest adventure: having a baby and becoming parents!
Once we chose the theme of the nursery, we decided to start with the furniture and then add in decor. I’ve been really into white furniture this past year because I love how the color brightens up a room, so naturally, I wanted to do white furniture for the nursery. I may or may not regret this decision when Baby M is old enough to walk and use crayons, but for now, I love the furniture we chose, not only for the color, but because of how modern it all looks, too!
Since the walls of the room are white and so is the furniture, I knew I wanted to add some pops of color when it came to came to choosing the decor. We ended up with mostly blues and greens, but I tried to get some yellow and orange in there too to get some variety in. I think my favorite part of the nursery is the wall with the country map prints on it. Since we went with a travel theme, Chris and I decided it would be fun to add some prints of different countries around the world, so of course we chose countries based on our respective ethnicities: China and Mexico for me, and Germany, Ireland, and Norway for Chris!
Most of the decor we got came from Etsy and Amazon, but a few other pieces were used as decorations at our baby shower. I’ve linked everything down below in case you see something you like and want to know where to find it.
Everything else was either decor from our baby shower or a handmade gift. If you have any questions about any of the furniture, decor, or anything else you see in the photos, leave them in the comments below!
Overall, I love the theme of the nursery and how the room came out. I’m also proud of the fact that we didn’t spend an arm and a leg putting it all together. I’ve heard that the average cost of a baby nursery is about $3,000, but we managed to spend about $1,000 on ours. Yay for saving money! Putting together Baby M’s nursery was definitely one of the highlights of my pregnancy, and I have to say that his nursery is now hands down my favorite room in the house.
36 WEEKS! This is the home stretch, people. I’m having a baby THIS month, unless he’s overdue and ends up being born in January but I already told him that’s not allowed. 😉
It’s crazy to think I could really go into labor any day now. I most likely won’t since I’ve had a low risk pregnancy so far, but the possibility is still there. I do want him to come early, but not TOO early. He at least needs to wait until I start my maternity leave on the 15th.
Regardless of when he comes, I’m so excited to meet him. As I type this, I can see him shift around in my belly and I can feel him stretch his little limbs. Crazy to think he’ll be resting in my arms soon.
Here are some other updates from this week:
- I had my 36 week doctor appointment on Tuesday and I’m happy to report all is well with Baby M: his heartbeat sounded good and he’s measuring right on track. I also found out that he’s head down, which is super good news because this means I can try for a vaginal birth from the start! I really don’t want a C-section because of the longer hospital stay and longer recovery time. Plus, the idea of having my stomach cut open while I’m awake freaks me out.
- My co-workers surprised me at work this week with a little baby shower; we ate cake and they gifted me a fancy high chair that I put on my baby registry. I was so touched by their thoughtfulness and generosity!
- This week has been a little stressful because Chris is sick with a cold, so not only have I been trying to take care of my sick husband, but I’m trying not to get sick myself! I’m already feeling super uncomfortable, so I can’t imagine feeling the way I am AND being sick on top of that. Or what if I get sick and then go into labor? Talk about a shitty situation. Having a baby due in the middle of cold and flu season has been super stressful; I’m so scared of him getting sick and ending up in the hospital once he’s here. For my next pregnancy, I’ll definitely time it better so my kid is not born in December!
- As far as baby prep goes, I think we’re in a good spot. We still have some tasks to wrap up, but if he were to come today, we have all the big stuff done. We have tons of baby gear, clothes, and diapers. Our hospital bags are packed and in the trunk of my car and the car seat is installed. We’re done with all our prenatal classes. I’ve stocked our freezer with meals and padsicles. I’ve stockpiled essentials like toilet paper and toiletries. I have most of my post-partum and nursing supplies ready. I just need to wrap up stuff at work for my maternity leave and find someone to clean my house for free! I’d also like to set aside some time to review all the handouts we got from our childbirth and newborn care classes. There’s so much to learn and prepare for when it comes to bringing a baby in the world!
I’m so excited for the weekend because I have little to no plans. I plan to nest a lot, and when I’m not nesting, I plan to nap a lot so I can take advantage of these last four weeks of glorious, uninterrupted sleep!
How was your week? What’s your plan for the weekend?
I totally dropped the ball last Friday and didn’t post my usual pregnancy update. (#pregnancybrain) So this week I’m combining weeks 34 and 35, and also posting it early since tomorrow’s Thanksgiving!
The good and bad from the last couple weeks:
- I’ve officially had to retire my wedding ring for now because my fingers have started swelling. And not only are my fingers swelling, but I’ve started developing some carpal tunnel in my hands, too. My hands feel really stiff when I wake up in the morning, but luckily it wears off throughout the day.
- I’ve been sleeping a lot more lately, and luckily, it’s mostly been uninterrupted sleep. I’ve been falling asleep earlier in the evening and sleeping in longer with naps in between. Everything seems to exhaust me, even activities that don’t take a lot of physical effort, like social events or work. It’s probably a good thing I’m sleeping a lot now, because I definitely won’t be when Baby M comes in a few weeks!
- Chris and I have been taking a lot of free prenatal classes offered through our healthcare provider, and I have to say they’re making me feel slightly more prepared and less anxious about baby’s arrival. In the last couple weeks, we’ve taken a breastfeeding class and a newborn care class. This weekend we’ll be taking our last class: a labor and childbirth class. I still don’t feel like I’m fully ready to birth and take care of a newborn, but at least I’m getting some of the basics down.
- Overall, I’m pretty damn uncomfortable these days. I’m feeling a lot of pelvic pain which makes it hard to walk so I am officially slow waddling now. It’s hard to get in and out of bed. It’s hard to put pants on. It’s hard to run errands. It’s hard to breathe. It’s hard to cut my toe nails. Basically, I’m looking forward to having my body back!
All the pregnancy challenges aside, I truly am thankful for the baby boy growing inside me. Every time I feel him kick, hiccup, roll, or stretch, it makes me so happy and excited to meet him in just five more weeks, or less!
What are your plans for Thanksgiving? What are you thankful for?
It’s been a rough week. I’m devastated over the election results, and these pregnancy hormones aren’t helping any. I think I’ve cried almost every day for the last week and a half, and Tuesday night was no exception. I could talk about it here, but honestly, I’m done talking about it. I’m emotionally exhausted and just need a break from the negativity, anger, and drama this election has stirred up over the last year.
Onto a different topic:
- My hospital bag is packed and sitting in the trunk of my car. The car seat is installed. If this kid decides to make an early debut, I am somewhat ready, and knowing that has been making me feel a little better. The nursery is done, too, so I will be sharing pictures here of it soon. Next up on the ol’ pregnancy todo list is write a will (ugh) and choose a pediatrician.
- I can tell people think I’m looking pretty big right around now. A family member told me she thinks I’m going to have an 8-9 pound baby. A co-worker straight up told me I’m “so big… in a good way!” Whatever their intentions, these comments were not comforting and the one about me being big made me cry. (Thanks, hormones.) Some people need to learn that commenting on one’s size, pregnant or not, is not ok. Just keep your thoughts and comments to yourself.
- I think I’m getting to the point where I’m done being pregnant, and even though I still have a lot to do before he arrives, I’m ready for my baby to be here already. I’ve been feeling super uncomfortable this last week. It’s getting harder to get out of bed after I wake up, get dressed in the morning, and walk for long distances without getting Braxton Hicks contractions. I’ve been having a hard time breathing because he’s squishing my lungs. Yeah, I think between these recent feelings of discomfort, the non-stop hormones, and the comments on my size, I’m just ready to be done, but I have 7 weeks to go. If only I could just start my maternity leave now and hide out at home until my due date. That sounds ideal right about now.
I had today off from work because of Veteran’s Day and it was much-needed. I got away from the computer (AKA all the election drama on FB) and went to Apple Hill with Chris and Otis. Tomorrow, Chris and I have another prenatal class to attend, then we’re having dinner with some relatives from my mom’s side of the family.
How was your week? What are your plans for the weekend?